When I first began exploring Tarot Cards, I decided to have a reading from a friend who was using the Rider-Waite-Smith(RWS) deck. I got the Ten of Cups as my final outcome card in a Celtic Cross spread.
She said that this was a great card and things were going to be fabulous in the future. I saw the beautiful cups and the rainbow and thought “It is a lovely scene, but what do those children dancing in the bottom mean? I don’t have kids and just got divorced.” I wondered what it could mean. What had Pamela Coleman Smith drawn and what message was being conveyed? Why was it that way? You can’t see the couples’ faces, only the “happy” children dancing up a storm under a rainbow full of cups. In the book that accompanies the Original Rider Waite Tarot Deck, The Pictorial Key to the Tarot, Arthur E. Waite stated that the Ten of Cups shows an “appearance of cups in a rainbow; it is contemplated in wonder and ecstasy by a man and woman, evidently husband and wife.” But I was not sure how this applied to me and my situation. I started to look at other decks and how other Tarot artists viewed this card.
I started with the Ten of Cups in the Voyager Tarot deck by James Wanless, which shows the Ten as a golden cup surrounded by flowers. The cup is a golden lion with flowers coming out of it and all the flowers are in full bloom. It appears to be abundance in all it’s glory.
As I continued my studies, I found out that Tens are the extreme of the Minor Arcana. They represent as far in the suit as one can go and this can be both good and bad. This water card is at the end of the cup pips. It represents having been through all the other places and it is now at the end of it’s journey. It is the final cups card before you go into the court or cycle back through the pips. It stands ready to be the answer to all and yet the last question in the emotion cards. Cups are the element of water with it’s ebb and flow. When looking at the other pip cup cards, the Ten stands out as it doesn’t appear to have water in its cups in the RWS deck. It is encompassed in the rainbow after the flood. Could it suggest that one has to survive the floods of emotions to reach one’s rainbow or emotional dreams? Traditionally, the Ten of Cups is seen as the overflowing of emotions or having achieved the end of the journey in the Cups. But when it is laid in different positions in a spread, it is interesting to see how the position effects the meaning of this card. If one focuses on the location of the card in the spread instead of just using the main meaning of the card as the deciding factor of its message, the reader can really expand what this card could be conveying to the querant. In other words, try applying the meaning of the location in the spread to give perspective on the possibly meaning of the card in that location. For example, when it appears in the hopes/fear position in a Celtic Cross spread, how often does a reader skim it as “Oh see you hope for a family and complete joy“? Why not also consider it as fear of never having a family or kids? Or what about the obsession with finding the “perfect mate and family” and not looking at how the querent can improve themselves to meet the lofty goals as promised by the Ten of Cups? What other meanings could be seen here? What if you hate rainbows? It could be seen as no more rain, but it could also be seen as no more water to help things grow.
In the different positions in the Celtic Cross spread, one might want to add that position meaning to the wonder of abundance in the Ten of Cups. Another example is using a 3 card spread of Past, Present, and Future. As the Ten of Cups moves through each position, how can it change how it is viewed? When it appears in the Past position, it can imply having a good foundation to have built upon. When in the Present position, it could imply having achieved your goals in your job or family life. Finally, when in the Future position it could be considered to represent a goal one is working towards or rejoicing the good time one has worked hard to achieve. Try it in a spread you have not used before and you can see even more depth to this card. Each spread position can effect how the reader can take the meanings of the Ten of Cups and express it for the querent.
Of course there could be a meaning of negativity one might need to consider for different querents. Upon looking at the the Ten of Cups, one can’t see the faces of the two “adults” in the scene in the RWS card. The woman could be screaming, crying or weeping because she is being held captive by the man who has his arm around her waist. He could be keeping her there as he points up to the sky saying “See, you are mine. Even the heavens say it is so.” The children could very well just be evil henchmen dancing as their master has captured the princess. It depends on the querent and what they see as well. Or perhaps this ‘ideal’ setting is exactly what the querent doesn’t want, having recently escaped a restrictive relationship or household and now is on their own; in this case it represents what they got away from. It could be that they feel that everyone around then is telling they must get married and have children and that isn’t their ideal. The Ten of Cups can imply dependency; that only in partnership can ‘happiness’ be found. For some people, this is exactly what they should NOT be seeking at this point in their lives; someone with a co-dependency problem may see this card as vindication of their habits and self-harming nature. Again, it depends on who the reading is for and the question at hand. On the other hand, perhaps the Ten is a goal but hints that trust, partnership and occasionally letting someone else handle things is needed. Not exactly what a Type-A, dominant, control-freak wants to hear, but maybe what they need to hear. The Ten of Cups, like every card, can contain bitter and necessary truths under the guise of idyllic rainbows.
I have found that the meaning of the Ten of Cups -and all cards for that matter- changes with the position I find the card in, for every reading I do. When the Ten of Cups is in the beginning and it cross the first card, generally people are looking for the rainbow of their dreams. When it showed up in the past influences, it could be about letting go of old dreams that weren’t their own. When it comes up in the future influences, it is more about looking for their own view of happiness. If it is in the hopes/ fears position it is sometimes the hope for a family and children. It also represents the fear of never finding that ideal. Each reading brings on a new way to see the Ten of Cups. And each placement is a correct way to view the Ten of Cups. It is what the querent needs it to be. And the Ten of Cups, like the water it represents, ebbs and flows as it shows up in any reading.
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Everyone defines their own happiness. For some people, it’s a stable home with a family; for other people, it’s traveling the world with nothing but the pack on their back. When the 10 of Cups comes up, I think it’s helpful to ask the client “How do you define happiness for yourself? What is fulfilling? How much of that do you have in your life currently?” The other cards will usually provide information about how the client can bring more into their life, or emphasize the need to decide the answers to those questions.
Good take on this card. I never considered viewing The 10 o C in that perspective. Althought I still think it’s generally a good card.
I, too, have been trying to figure out what 10 of cups really means. I received it twice in a row, upright in future position, 3 card reading, always asking about my just past, emotionally abusive relationship. The first time I got the reading, we had a big fight just after, when I lost control emotionally. I believe the card has a lot to do with abusive, false, and restrictive relationships. With no more rain, there is no water (emotion) to make a relationship grow, and it soon dies. Also, the children clearly need attention.
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It was meant to be that I found your website. I recently met this man who is the epitome of what I always go for in men. As odd as it sounds, I’m always into the narcissistic and arrogant types. Men who are too “nice” annoy me. Naturally, my relationships with these men do not get so far, and they are simply a lot of fun. I’ve never been in anything long term with this type.
But, this new guy…he’s caused me to stop and wonder what things could be like in the future. Amazing, of course! But… something inside of me keeps nudging me that he is not what he appears to be…that there is something darker, deeper in the way he makes me feel.
I am very independent, and I believe this man sees me as a challenge; a conquest. The cards represent hard work on his end and the outcome of what he wants from me – the 10 of cups. The funny thing is, I never started getting such clear results from the cards until I asked the question: “what does he want from me?”. Well, of course the cards were clear…but not to me…I never let myself see it. Now – everything has become so clear. The 10 of Cups means this for this man: he is emotionally unable to ever have a truly satisfying relationship (a happy family like the image on the card), but he does have his own version. He ends up in a controlling position (which GREATLY pleases him!); this is his happy celebration, his 10 of cups. I am way too strong to ultimately enter into that type of relationship. Almost…almost…I feel I avoided something major here.
I think u went a little too far… when the people’s faces are not present is because they are suposed to be US… The woman’s right arm is raised, she is like the man “welcoming tomorrow”(not captive of him) and something else you was wrong about is the fact that the rainbow is a sign that the storm has passed… they probably had hard times, “storm clouds” over their heads… but now they can rejoice… they are still together ready to accept the hapiness, peace and serenity, that was well deserved. This card is one of the moust good ones, the rainbow is said that was the promise of God to mankind that the world was not going to end in water… that is why is said to be protection. no more storms ahead… the fact that the cup has no more liquid means that their life is the liquid… they no longer need to carry it with then…
This card is coming up as my secret and now as a weakness.
After reading the above. I see it as people projecting what they I ought to feel. That I should rejoice especially regarding my work. I work for a union and I just won my first union via the companies saying they will allow it to happen. When my boss told me, him and my co-workers were so jubilant. I instead was enraged (visibly) because I frankly stopped caring a long time ago about it, it was bound to happen with or without me. I was also sad because I turned down a job offer for the same organization in California. I was born there, moved as a child to pac nw where I feel held captive. I turned down the job because they were playing too many games and offer a salaried that was slightly less than what I make in Portland. Never felt so undervalued and slapped in the face by this supposed family. So no I’m not fckuing happy! Family ties do in fact bind!
What makes me happy is personal growth, change, support, wellness, fun, freedom, love from those I love back (my culture, travel, attractive men. I want to find my family (it’s not my blood family).
This is in the mandala spread. In my committment-3 of cups. Spiritual advice- 8 of pentacles Secret- hermit Next step-judgement key to open door-knight of wands.ambition-queen of wands self image-king of pentacles strength- 10 of swords accomplishment- chariot reversed
A very helpful reading now that I get the 10 of cups
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this card came up for my recent past, which was full of someone elses over dramatic emotional outbursts, leading to my own. he is a controlling person. I feel so weak and drained and I have been stuck, on the verge of making a decision to cut losses unless he gets help. I know I am a typical dumbass female right now. I didnt mean to get into this situation with a bipolar person. The extremes are numbing me. I cant believe either. too much bullcrap emotion from him and no logic or rational thought, in my mind, a role reversal. I pride myself on not playing typical stupid female games and I ended up with a man who does. Never be surprised by how much someone can disappoint you. He wants marriage. Im insulted he would think that is an offer that means anything but confinement and a complete loss of myself – with him. I dont think marriage is useful unless you breed. I dont want to. I left the east coast unfortunately to come to a stupid home state which is ass backwards twilight zone to me. the men here seem to be pansy ass histrionics to me. So damn sensitive and not in the good way. More like they are stupid or lacking, so insecure, and they remedy that by trying to control women. Women are for breeding, cooking cleaning blah blah blah as if my vagina makes me want to be his damn mother. So, he wanted the 10 cups, a twisted controlling version like the other person said. This card cannot represent my horrible recent past in a positive way, illogical. Over emotion. Tasteless to me bc based on histrionic needy games. Somehow this card represents pure crap sometimes. That disappoints me. It looks happy and good even tho that family crap is not what I want and is NOT my idea of happiness. Happiness to me is peace and usually quiet, private space, private time, private almost everything. That is not possible with kids. Nor with a needy man who wants a woman for the same reason he wants a car. To perform. To let him have that ideal family life. Its only ideal for women who do not resent people wasting their time with constant requests. There is no me time in that. And with a man like a child, who needs kids? Who needs a childish man who cant act like good roommate. Not my father or keeper or anything at all that implies control. Yes somehow this card will possibly forever represent other people demanding their happiness and being tastelessly histrionic. I hope someday it means something good. Even I can tell it is supposed to. It just doesnt always.